The adult crush

Posted Jul 4 at 10:43 AM

We've all had at least one. Maybe more if you're lucky. I've had quite a few. Whether it be over a work colleague, a friend of a friend, the guy who you buy your coffee from everyday, or even someone you interact with online. I'm sure you can relate.

Maybe it's because people associate a crush with their teenage years. You know when you blushed and stammered every time that certain someone passed you in the halls at school. People don't really admit to having one once they get to a certain age, which I find funny because I don't believe there is an age limit to "crushing" on somebody. I know my Grandmother has a thing for her butcher and she's 65!

Maybe people rarely admit to having a crush because they fear they may be considered stalkerish or immature. There is also the fear that people will think you want to actively pursue your crush or hope for a sexual and/or romantic encounter with them. That doesn't have to be the case though. I believe it can be a harmless, fun occurrence.

It's perfectly natural to find yourself admiring qualities in another, being mildly attracted to someone or feeling affection for someone in a purely innocent way.

Admittedly, you might find yourself having sexual fantasies or daydream about having a relationship with your crush. Sometimes those dreams may become reality and the object of your desire moves from crushville to lustville and then dateville. Good for you. If that's what you want.

But what I'm talking about is the innocent crushes. Harmless dalliances if you will.
Personally, I've had crushes on workmates, friends, forum members and even a few bloggers, both male and female. That doesn't mean I want to sex them. It just means I take pleasure in their company, and feel a certain affection for them. The problem I have is that I'm a shameless flirt, so when I'm "crushing" on someone, that goes up a notch and it can be very obvious.

But to me, It's all just harmless fun and a bit of excitement in a dull day.

so what about you? Are you "crushing" on somebody right now??

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Ali

On Jul 5 at 6:33 AM
Hell I am still looking for Bob ... is that a crush?

Affliction

On Jul 4 at 11:57 AM
I think that we all experience what you're talking about. Although we rarley address it. For many of the reasons you described above. In todays society "crushing" on someone is very often confused with being "stalkerish". I have a huge crush on a girl on this site names Hollie. I don't think that anything will really come of it and it's purley innocent. I simpy admire her beauty and seemingly good nauture. I am in a relationship and my girl knows about it. There are times when I am reluctent to message her or comment on her page for fear that she may think Im coming on too strong. In all reality Im not trying to come on at all just showing interest. Anyways my point is that "crushing" is perfectly normal. We are attracted to other people point blank. People should feel more free to express their feelings without feeling like a stalker or inappropriate. On the other hand you do have to be carefull these days. Some people can't seem to seperate realit from fantasy. Fantasy is very healthy and normal. When someone takes it to the extreem though and the feelings are not mutual thats where you run into problems. Really we all just need to be honest about our feelings and it would solve alot of problems.

Giggle Worthy

On Jul 4 at 11:23 AM
DragonFenix - awwww,now i'm blushing.:P

"It's just nice knowing someone appreciates (so many) different qualities about you. Especially nice when it's mutual."

DragonFeNx

On Jul 4 at 11:04 AM
I've shamelessly and unabashedly shared my immense love for you, GiggleSnort.... Crushville, USA. I soooo feel what you're saying and totally agree. Not looking for anything to change from where it is. It's, dare I say, PERFECT!

I also found myself having a mutual CRUSH with a new friend. Those fantasies of different scenarios were had and each of us know it's not going anywhere and are very happy where it is. It's just nice knowing someone appreciates (so many) different qualities about you. Especially nice when it's mutual.

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