About Private Messages

You may have noticed that you can't automatically send a private message to any member.

To protect your privacy, only your friends and certain members can send you messages on SWYDM. The Network Creator and Administrators can send you messages and you can message them back. Further, if you belong to any groups, the Group Creator and Admins can get in touch with you privately — and you may receive messages sent to all members of a group. In order to send another member a message, you'll need to ask them to be your friend first.

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Permalink Reply by Nigel on September 10, 2008 at 10:17am: I think you should be able to send a message to any member, whether on your friends list or not! If there is a block feature and someone doesnt want to be contacted by another member then they should be able to choose to block them or not. Is there a block feature by the way??; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by mike_d99 on September 10, 2008 at 11:25am: I agree with Nigel - that's how you meet people and friendships start! I never quite got that myspace thing of not being able to leave comments on people's pages until you were friends with them, you just end up adding a load of people that, in hindsight, weren't worth talking to ;); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Teak on September 10, 2008 at 4:22pm: I think with those big sites its too prevent excessive spamming, which is bad enough on myspace even with the adding system! But with a small "specialist" community like SWYDM you don't need that privacy barrier. Ive only ever received one even remotely spammy email on SWYDM.

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Permalink Reply by Kallyfer on September 10, 2008 at 6:46pm: I have to agree :) I don't mind getting messages from people I don't know. It's how I met all my previous swydm and reezle buddies! Please open the feature :) If there is any harrassment then a block feature would be very nice to have but I'd hate to not be able to talk to more people on here!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Nottm_male on September 12, 2008 at 8:42am: I agree with the thoughts above, how can we know if we want to be friends with someone if we can not talk to them.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by mike_d99 on September 16, 2008 at 2:34pm: Maybe the way forward would be to allow people to message other people, but also give members the option of choosing who can contact them, e.g anyone, or only people on their friends list, something like that?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by slurpie on September 19, 2008 at 5:45am: I agree with Mike. I don't believe this safety feature is necessary. What could be put into its place is to give each member the option of who they wish to receive messages from -- everyone, friends only or no one.; ▶ Reply to This